The importance of music to say goodbye
Since we can remember it, the funerals are accompanied by music. It is a practice that has a very complex and interesting mourning mechanism behind it. Just think of the Egyptians, the Requiem composed by the greatest composers, or the funerals of His Royal Highness Lady Diana Spencer, who does not remember Candle in the wind? It was 1997. Sometimes we forget but the music has enormous power.
Or just think of the Balkan traditions, Goran Bregovic isaccompanied by a band called "Orchestra for Weddings and Funerals"
And then one day while watching television quietly, on Domenica In, Easter day, Don Antonio Mazzi arrives and ...
So why is music important?
Win the Silence
Music avoids excessive silence in the most painful moments. Silence is certainly very important for those who have to work through mourning because it allows them to shut themselves up in search of some truth or motivation that allows them to move forward despite the pain. Silence is risky because it is like a sort of abyss that can raise the level of pain, especially for the most sensitive people.
Join your loved ones
We must remember that together we are strengthened, that also thanks to the support of the important people, who are still with us in this life, we can find the strength necessary to continue our journey: we are all there to say thank you and the music in this unites .
Collect without isolating yourself
La musica rende possibile raccogliersi nonostante le tante persone presenti, è un invito a riflettere. In quel momento non si può parlare, nessuno verrà a disturbare, non si può fare altro che ascoltare la musica e pensare, lasciarsi trasportare dai ricordi e dalle emozioni. Anche grazie alla musica abbiamo la possibilità di accedere alla parte più intima di noi stessi.
Processing Mourning
Music promotes emotion, tears. Although this may seem like a negative point, in reality it is not. Through tears you have the chance to throw out some pain. The point is not to outsource it, but to get rid of it, let off steam, be able to make what you are experiencing more acceptable.
An example in Music
The music that will be chosen must be easily understood by the whole community present at the rite, but it must also be in line with the personality of those who left us, so that something of him or her can resonate in the air because it is the right way to pay tribute and say thank you.
Having the chance to feel the presence of the deceased through music makes this possible: understanding that this event, however tragic it may be, is inevitable. Each season has a beginning and an end, as well as every journey. And it does not matter that you believe in some God or that you are completely devoid of faith: this is an awareness that everyone must reach to be able to mourn the best and to be able to really live every moment that existence has in store for them, because the important thing is the journey and not the destination.